The part of the contribution that comes from the home can be deferred through the Nursing Home Loan and settled from the estate later. Nobody ever pays more than the actual cost of their care.
This page applies the published formula to the figures you enter. The HSE assesses income and assets in detail, including transfers made in the five years before the application.
This is exactly when the will, an enduring power of attorney and the Fair Deal application should be looked at together. If there is no EPA in place yet, that comes first.
Bring the pension letters and a rough idea of savings and the house. One meeting covers the application, the EPA and the will.